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FROM THE MANSE

Words of Encouragement from the Manse

Back to Previous Page The biggest lesson about love and marriage that my mum and dad taught us was how to talk "about" your spouse. Have you ever heard husbands and wives, when speaking to others, make unkind remarks about their spouses? It's one of those things people seem to do. Sure, they're "only kidding" or perhaps they might not but remember that words matter. And words teach positively or negatively. You would never hear negative words from my mum and dad. Dad always speaks of mom in the most complimentary, glowing terms as she does of him. This lesson made such an impression on me. I still remember when I was age 14 and we were getting carpet installed in our home. The crew boss was one of those stereotypical beer- guzzling, hard-living people who would have probably belonged to Ralph Kramden's Raccoon Lodge from the old Honeymooner's TV show. At lunchtime whilst the crew were eating, my dad went to talk with the boss about the job whilst I was around the corner listening. The boss said, "This is an expensive job. Women will really spend your money, won't they?" Dad responded, "Well, I'll tell you, when they were right there with you before you had any money, it's a pleasure to do anything for them you possibly can." This wasn't the answer the carpet installer expected to hear. He was looking for negative banter about wives which to him, was natural. He tried again: "But, gee, they'll really play off that and spend all they can, won't they?" Dad replied as I knew he would, "Hey when they're the reason you're successful, you want them to do the things they enjoy. There's no greater pleasure." Strike two. The crew boss tried one more time, "And they'll take that as far as they can, huh?" Dad responded, "She's the best thing that ever happened to me. I'd do anything to make her happy." I was trying not to laugh. I knew he wanted dad to give in just a little bit and say, "Yeah, I guess that's true." But it wouldn't happen... not in a million years! Finally, the installer gave up and went back to work, probably shaking his head in bewilderment. Witnessing my dad at that moment taught me more about loving and respecting your wife than anything he could ever have told me about the subject. Mum and dad are now retired and enjoying their life together; just hanging out, reading and visiting their children and grandchildren. They recently celebrated their 55th wedding anniversary. They still hold hand and are more in love than ever. Throughout the years, whenever mum would remind me, I should be looking to get married, I'd say, "Mum, I have plenty of time." She'd jokingly reply that I don't have "that" much time. My dad would then look at me in that wisdom-filled, city streets bred way of his and say "Hey, you take all the time you need. If you marry someone just half the woman your mother is, you'll have a great life." I should only be so lucky. Thank God" Be thankful in every way. We must appreciate things in life big or small. Whatever comes our way is a gift from God, purely undeserved favour that money cannot buy. Be positive and thankful for your family (wife, husband, children, cousin, sister, and brother, parents, single or married) As we approach Christmas please remember to do everything in moderation. I wish you, your family and friends all the best for 2019 AND 2020. Wishing you every blessing this Advent, Christmas and the New Year George Quarm. _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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FROM THE MANSE

Words of Encouragement from

the Manse

Back to Previous Page The biggest lesson about love and marriage that my mum and dad taught us was how to talk "about" your spouse. Have you ever heard husbands and wives, when speaking to others, make unkind remarks about their spouses? It's one of those things people seem to do. Sure, they're "only kidding" or perhaps they might not but remember that words matter. And words teach positively or negatively. You would never hear negative words from my mum and dad. Dad always speaks of mom in the most complimentary, glowing terms as she does of him. This lesson made such an impression on me. I still remember when I was age 14 and we were getting carpet installed in our home. The crew boss was one of those stereotypical beer-guzzling, hard-living people who would have probably belonged to Ralph Kramden's Raccoon Lodge from the old Honeymooner's TV show. At lunchtime whilst the crew were eating, my dad went to talk with the boss about the job whilst I was around the corner listening. The boss said, "This is an expensive job. Women will really spend your money, won't they?" Dad responded, "Well, I'll tell you, when they were right there with you before you had any money, it's a pleasure to do anything for them you possibly can." This wasn't the answer the carpet installer expected to hear. He was looking for negative banter about wives which to him, was natural. He tried again: "But, gee, they'll really play off that and spend all they can, won't they?" Dad replied as I knew he would, "Hey when they're the reason you're successful, you want them to do the things they enjoy. There's no greater pleasure." Strike two. The crew boss tried one more time, "And they'll take that as far as they can, huh?" Dad responded, "She's the best thing that ever happened to me. I'd do anything to make her happy." I was trying not to laugh. I knew he wanted dad to give in just a little bit and say, "Yeah, I guess that's true." But it wouldn't happen... not in a million years! Finally, the installer gave up and went back to work, probably shaking his head in bewilderment. Witnessing my dad at that moment taught me more about loving and respecting your wife than anything he could ever have told me about the subject. Mum and dad are now retired and enjoying their life together; just hanging out, reading and visiting their children and grandchildren. They recently celebrated their 55th wedding anniversary. They still hold hand and are more in love than ever. Throughout the years, whenever mum would remind me, I should be looking to get married, I'd say, "Mum, I have plenty of time." She'd jokingly reply that I don't have "that" much time. My dad would then look at me in that wisdom-filled, city streets bred way of his and say "Hey, you take all the time you need. If you marry someone just half the woman your mother is, you'll have a great life." I should only be so lucky. Thank God" Be thankful in every way. We must appreciate things in life big or small. Whatever comes our way is a gift from God, purely undeserved favour that money cannot buy. Be positive and thankful for your family (wife, husband, children, cousin, sister, and brother, parents, single or married) As we approach Christmas please remember to do everything in moderation. I wish you, your family and friends all the best for 2019 AND 2020. Wishing you every blessing this Advent, Christmas and the New Year George Quarm. _____________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________ _______________
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